Sometimes in practice despite our best efforts we can begin to feel unloved. perhaps you aren’t getting the results you expect, maybe your clients aren’t taking the advice you give them or perhaps you have found yourself on the receiving end of someone’s bad day. Here’s some tips to bring the love to your practice.
Why does it matter?
For many of us, including myself, we get into practice in the first place because we want to do something that matters in the world. I got into practice because I wanted to have a job where I could go home at the end of the day and know that I had done something of worth, help someone, make a difference in someone’s life and hopefully the world in some small way. But what if you have a day or even a week where you don’t feel that is the case. If you are like me then you can start to feel like you don’t matter.
If we stop and take a good hard look at the situation we can recognise that we are gaining our self-esteem from what we do, the successes that we have and the people who we help. In reality however that is our ego talking and unfortunately there is no place for ego in practice, because ego is never satisfied.
What is self-esteem?
If we stop and think about it self esteem is really….wait for it…..wait for it…. self love. I know it seems shocking but that is the truth. Self esteem is about self belief or the sense of value we have in ourselves which equates to how much love we have for ourselves. We are taught in society that self-love is perhaps selfish but there’s more to it than that.
What do we advise our clients?
We advise them on a whole host of things they can do to care for themselves. In many cases we can see that poor habits have led to the current crisis and we recommend changes that they can be made to help. So do we call our clients selfish for caring for and respecting themselves? No we encourage it, and we applaud it because we know that’s what it takes for them to improve. And that’s what we are here for after all.
What can you do when feeling unloved?
Recognising success and failure does not define you is a start but what else? If self esteem is about self love then perhaps we need to consider some of the advice that we give to our clients. Are you taking time out to de-stress? What is your diet like? Do you exercise? Are you getting the help you perhaps need to respect and care for yourself? If not perhaps it’s about time you started. By looking after ourselves better we begin to realise our value is not defined by successes or lack of them but by how much we value ourselves in the actions we take.
Take it from someone who has learnt, caring for myself has meant I am far less affected by the results I get. It doesn’t mean I don’t care but it does mean my self-esteem doesn’t take a beating when things around me aren’t exactly as I would like. This gives me the inspiration to look at how I can help someone tomorrow.
Don’t forget as always we are here to help.
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